INTIMACY BAROMETER

The Intimacy Barometer shows the level of closeness in your relationship. Complete the exercise individually; but concurrently. Monitor your behaviour in this way at the end of every week, for 6 weeks.

One

Make twelve photocopies of this page - two for each week. At the end of each week, take some quiet time together and assess the statements independently, giving each answer a score of between 1 and 5. Then each record your total score.
The scores: 1 = never, 2 = rarely, 3 = sometimes, 4 = often,S = constantly
This week you:

·        showed kindness toward me

·        helped me with something

·        disclosed thoughts and feelings

·        shared activities with me

·        spent time talking with me

·        laughed with me

·        showed tenderness toward me

This week I:

·        felt relaxed and at ease with you

·        felt close to you

·        enjoyed hugging you

·        valued what is different about you

·        experienced companionship with you

Two

Exchange pages and read your partner's scores. Do not comment, but thank your partner. Then, discuss how you might both be able to show more intimacy toward one another. Where are there areas of low score? What effort can each of you make to work on these areas? Perhaps one of you feels that something had an unjustly low score - talk about why. Might one of you have unwittingly taken something the other did for granted?